Making Time For Love---Part Two
Coming into Your Own God's Way
We're starting to understand what we need to do. But it's much easier said than done. Changing our attitudes is not a simple, clear-cut process. In fact, it can get downright messy.
But God promises that when we seek Him first, everything else will be given to us as well. When we pray, "Change my heartdon't worry about him," everything else will fall into place.
Instead of asking, "What will bring me happiness and fulfillment?" ask, "How can I satisfy and complete my husband?" Instead of looking at sex through the lens of our own perceptions, let's try to look at sex through our husbands' eyes. And even beyond that, we need to look at sex from God's perspective. Instead of demanding our own way, saying, "I deserve to be loved the way I want to be loved," realize that sex is a gift. One that we sinful humans don't deserve to receive from a holy God.
At this point we could ask, "Who's going to look out for me if I don't? I don't want to lose my identity by constantly serving someone else. I am my own person, after all.
Well, Paul seems to think that we can't truly come into our own until we die to ourselves and find our identity somewhere elsenamely in Christ. Galatians 2 makes this crystal-clear.
It's inexplicable, but who we are becomes even more individual, real, and beautiful when we deny our own desires and serve others. The world has it backward putting someone else's needs before your own means you're strong, not weak.
We can't do this on our own, however. As Paul says in Romans 7, "I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out." You'll hear me chanting this refrain throughout the pages of this book. We desperately need God's help.
Surrender to Him and let His Spirit work in your heart. Ask Him to give you the strength, energy, determination, and desire to begin meeting your husband's physical needs more often and more willingly.
Sometimes our feelings will get hurt, and our sex drive will shut down. We won't want sex until everything is right. When things aren't perfect, though, we desperately need God yet again. He promises He'll be there to help us.If you're anything like me, there have been plenty of times when you prayed halfheartedly for something, not believing that God would actually come through for you or even bother listening to your prayer.
We're told in James chapter 1 that we will face trials. But if we ask in faith--if we believe and not doubt God will give us wisdom generously. (I'm sure the trials James speaks of include those of marriage.) But when we ask for something and don't really believe God can accomplish it, we're like "a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind."
Praying for a renewed sexual relationship with your husband will always be in line with God's wisdom and His perfect will for your life. And when you pray in complete faith, He promises to answer, as Jesus indicates in Matthew 21.
Ask your God for a complete sexual relationship makeover. He will give you sexual desire even when it seems like an impossible request. But you have to ask. And believe with all your heart even if you can't see or understand how it will all play out that the results will be amazing.
Taken from Is That All He Thinks About?: How to Enjoy Great Sex with Your Husband by Marla Taviano. Published by Harvest House Copyright © 2007 Marla Taviano. All rights reserved.